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|Onyinye Oyedele||Sunday, March 4, 2007|
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WOMAN TO WOMAN (PART ONE)
otherhood is indeed one of the divine roles that we are privileged to experience. It can be one of the "wonders of the world"! You can not fully explain how it feels to be pregnant and experience nine months of changes. It is better experienced than explained. When you feel another human being kicking and playing inside you, it is such as amazing moment. You keep looking forward to the day when you will get to meet your little one and then see the precious being that has been growing inside you.
Every mother has a story to tell and we can see ourselves in each other's experiences. We might be in different continents, nations, cities, towns or villages but we can understand what we are all going through in our journey as women. "Woman to Woman" celebrates the Joy of motherhood and acknowledges our challenges but above all it aims to speak to the heart of women all over the world to let them know that they are not alone in whatever they are facing. But together we can all enjoy our God given role, cherish it and flourish in it.
This special article is dedicated to mothers. Read what our wonderful mums have to say:
The childbirth process and labour especially was scary because I was far away from home. But I was just happy to see my child. I was completely blown away. It definitely strikes you that you are now responsible for a new life. But I thank God for everything. I saw my parents recently in Nigeria and they were so excited to see my son for the first time. My mum cried! They were so proud of me. It was such a joyful moment for my family.
Everyday is a struggle but I will not have it different. I am taking it one day at a time. It is lovely being a mum and my boy is the best gift that I have from God.
Ogochukwu Yvonne Sefia
The whole experience for me as a first time mum has been a mixture of joy and challenges. I am learning a lot of things and enjoying every stage of my child's growth. My labour was not easy but my husband was there with me to ensure that every decision was what we wanted. The most important thing is to have a healthy baby.
My mum was not around so I had to do so much on my own. Going back to work has been quite a challenge but I have learnt to ask God for grace to combine things. He is my source of strength, and I think parents should always ask God for guidance to raise their kids because we need both physical and spiritual strength.
I look at my kids and I feel blessed. I am excited to have them in my life because it will be boring without them. It is an additional excitement to have a family to care for. It makes you think of others beside you. It can be rough sometimes with the constant 'home scattering' and cleaning.
One of my major concerns is on "home accidents". I always want to ensure that they are safe so I am very proactive in this area. I don't worry about my kids getting sick in school or at the baby sitter because as a Christian, I have learnt to pray for my children and believe that God will protect them. So I am relaxed when I am at work. I also know that God will provide for us to take care of the children. But I will like to encourage parents to save for the future of their children so that they will never have to beg to pursue their education.
Realizing that I was going to be a mother soon after I got married scared me. I did not have any sickness, so I was quite active, as I would be normally. However, I was two weeks over due, which I did not expect. Two days later my water broke and the process began. When I pushed out the baby and she was given to me, I felt the bond immediately. She was the most beautiful being relying on me for her food. I praise God for such a wonderful gift in my life.
My pukee (pet name) sleeps through the night and breastfeeds only so no one else can feed her. This was my first challenge! We bought so many bottles and even tried the "let her be hungry" style so that she can eventually take the bottle, but not my pukee. When I had to go back to work, we had to "fast and pray" so that she would start taking the bottle and she did.
She is 21 months now and I have had so much joy and challenges but I have this mental attitude that the joy of having a child cancels out the challenges. I remember so many moments like….her first birthday, her first word and when I asked her to clap and she did for the first time. However my biggest challenge is when she comes down with a temperature and it takes time for her to come back to her normal self.
My "mummy shift" starts very early each day and runs till the children are all looking cute in bed sleeping! I then settle down for some "mummy time". My children have given me reasons to laugh more everyday. Taking care of them is the greatest job that I will ever have so I ask God for wisdom each day to do it right. Sometimes I wish I had more than two hands because there is so much to do, but I have learnt to multitask. I can't count how many times I have to pick up the toys, do the laundry, cook, change diapers and keep saying "noooo".
My pregnancy, delivery, and breastfeeding were all anxious moments because nothing I had heard, watched or even read prepared me for these moments adequately. The sleepless nights were not fun either. But I believe God has given women a kind of mental strength to go through so much pain and then immediately forget all that as soon as they carry their baby. It is just amazing to look at my kids each day and to hear my "big boy" call me "mama". I feel blessed to their mum. I am learning on the job and my biggest challenges are being consistent with discipline, waking up early to have my devotions which is a Christian priority, and lastly getting the children ready for bed at night.
The joy of expecting a new bundle of joy in the right atmosphere is something words can not describe. I know the same joy could be bad news for some women who did not plan it and have no one to share the responsibilities with.. As a Christian I believe that no matter the story behind the conception, God gave that little miracle.
I have been a new mom for 8monhs now and God has given me strength to survive every challenge. The most challenging part for me is knowing that I am a minister of the Gospel who has to study the bible, have daily devotions very early in the morning, pray for people, read Christian literature, take care of my family, cook and also keep myself updated in my legal profession! Waooo! It takes the grace of God to do all these. But reading a book "Woman of Destiny" by Cindy Jacobs, she encouraged women with children who are also ministers of the gospel to continue to be obedient to God and one day they will find more time to do more for God. So I have learnt to give thanks for my little accomplishments each day. He is a faithful God and He knows my hearts desires.
My advice for other women is that they should not be frustrated or angry for being so busy, but to relax and know that with we have a merciful God who can meet you at the point of your need.
..…So whether you had a natural or cesarean birth, or you breast fed exclusively or substituted with formula, or you are a working mum or a stay at home mum. Please I encourage you to celebrate the woman that God has created you to be. And be grateful to God that you are privileged to be a vehicle through which children come into this world. And if you are praying for a little bundle of joy in life, we join you in your prayers and believe that you will soon experience this unique privilege called " Motherhood".