“What’s the matter?” his wife Jezebel asked him. “What’s made you so upset
that you’re not eating?” 6 “I asked Naboth to sell me his vineyard or trade
it, but he refused!” Ahab told her. 7 “Are you the king of Israel or not?”
Jezebel demanded. “Get up and eat something, and don’t worry about it. I’ll
get you Naboth’s vineyard!” I king 21:5-7
bove quotation is from a real life situation from the bible not a parable.
It is the story of how Ahab wanted Naboth's vineyard and how he refused
because it was a family inheritance that could not be given away cheaply or
be bought at any price.This got Ahab so upset that he would not eat. His
wife then said ‘ pharaprased, “ I will fix it, don’t worry.’ Indeed she
fixed it by getting Naboth killed!
My question to you this morning is does it matter to you how your spouse fixes things for you to make you happy?
Many times in order to please our spouse we do wrong things, tell lies on the low level and grievous things like murder on the high side.
Many times our faith and belief in God suffers because we want to please
our spouse. Some will go ahead and make fake papers. Some will forge
documents. Some will misappropriate funds. Some will steal the nation dry
to send their children to school.
Some will take another man’s land through legal means illegally.
Ask yourself must I do that?
What of the family I am defrauding to please my spouse?What of the wife I
want to make a widow because my husband needs to smell flowers/roses? What
of the children that are going to become fatherless and possibly vagabonds
because your husband needs to take a walk in the evening in a garden that
is not his?
What of the many that will die because the money they needed to build
hospitals for the community, you have stolen it to buy many Range Rovers
for your First Lady?
How many have died of typhoid fever because you have to buy the latest
dresses and shoes for your spouse instead of using the money to drill
borehole to provide potable water for your community?
It reminds me of a husband who was sulcking like Ahab and could not sleep.
Then the wife asked what was the matter. I don’t have money to repay my
neighbour for the loan I took and he desperately needs it. The wife open
the shutter and called the neighbour , shouting on the top of her voice.
My husband does not have your money! And slammed the shutter down , told
the husband go and sleep, let him(the neighbor) do the worry! Really!
This is what the Holy Spirt taught me today.
- It is time we stop being selfish.
- Appeal to your spouse to swallow his or her pride.
- Think through.When your spouse says I will fix it find out how. Discuss
it, if the route s/he wants to take is ungodly or deadly discourage it and
- Life is sacred. The bible says thou shall not commit murder. You don’t
need to kill a human being for a cow or vineyard. Life is in the blood. Put
yourself in the position of the person you want to kill!
- Don’t be a scoundrel. Jezebel sought for a scoundrel to bear false
witness against Naboth. Stop being a front to siphon government,
church,community money. Stop being a thug to politicians or pastors or
company directors, or Obas/kings because of stipends.
- Give your spouse superior reasoning and or alternatives. What stops
Jezebel from taking the high road of making the husband to realize how many
vineyards he has? How Ahab can afford to buy land and build a better
garden. What of reminding your husband about godliness and contentment? How
about telling your children or spouse life is not about possessions and
valuables but values. How about telling your wife you don’t need to acquire
all you see just to please your eyes and emotions. Is that not what led Eve
and the whole world to this mess? ”And when the woman saw that the tree was
good for food, and that it was pleasant to the eyes, and a tree to be
desired to make one wise, she took of the fruit thereof, and did eat, and
gave also unto her husband with her; and he did eat.” Gen 3:6. Tell your
spouse to run away from “ things that are pleasant to the eye but not the
- There is someone watching and more powerful than your spouse. Yes your
spouse is the king, Prime Minister,President, Senator, Governor,General
Overseer, Bishop,Snr Pastor, Judge, Managing Director, your spouse is not
GOD.Your spouse is occupying that position for a temporary time only for
today. He will not be there tomorrow.Your spouse is answerable to God! God
is omnipotent, omniscient, omniscient. God sent Elijah to show he was
watching. There is nothing you are doing that is hidden from God.It may be
hidden from man, but not God. Remember David and Bathsheba? God is in
charge of the universe and he is the God of Justice. God owns yesterday
today and tomorrow.
- You will pay ultimately pay for your action or inaction. “Ahab sat at
home( inaction ), Jezebel went out to take action. Read the result “So
Ahab immediately went down to the vineyard of Naboth to claim it. 17 But
the LORD said to Elijah, 18 “Go down to meet King Ahab of Israel, who rules
in Samaria. He will be at Naboth’s vineyard in Jezreel, claiming it for
himself. 19 Give him this message: ‘This is what the LORD says: Wasn’t it
enough that you killed Naboth? Must you rob him, too? Because you have done
this, dogs will lick your blood at the very place where they licked the
blood of Naboth””And regarding Jezebel, the LORD says, ‘Dogs will eat
Jezebel’s body at the plot of land in Jezreel.”1 King 21:16-19,24. How
Conclusion. No doubt It is important to maintain (fix) the peace in your
house. It is important you make your spouse and children and grandchildren
happy, but do it in a way that will will neither destroy your neighbour,
nor incur the wrath of God. Do it in a way you will not destroy you
yourself and your family ultimately. Do it in a way that will glorify God.