-Continued from Part 3
Who can find a virtuous wife?
For her worth is far above rubies.
11 The heart of her husband safely trusts her (Proverbs 31: 10) (KJV)
or a larger part of our married life, we lived thousands of miles apart, her chastity was never in doubt even at a time when for a period of eight years we saw each other for only 35 days in a year. Because once I left home in January, I did not return home until December. She understood it clearly that it was for the benefit of the souls of the family and she paid the price.
In my last 10 years in the Arabian Gulf, she visited only in summer, staying for 12 weeks when school vacation in the U.S lasted and our son had to resume classes. She prepared food that lasted me till the following May when she would return. She prepared it in pieces of single meals and packed them in deep freezer. All I needed to do the day prior was to decide what soup and meal I would eat, bring them out to allow them to tor.
She thought a microwave oven would make life easy for me. But she had serious trouble convincing me to buy one because I was not prepared to accumulate items. I needed all my money for the assignment (Mission work) I had ahead of me.
But one time before she departed, she played a fast game on me. She had arranged it with an elderly Professor woman to make me buy one. So after she returned to the U.S, the woman asked me to go a shopping with her. I suspected no game until the elderly Professor woman turned to Home Appliances section and introduced me to varieties of Microwave ovens and asked me to pay for my choice. I knew it was a coup. When that night we spoke, I congratulated her for a successful coup.
It also reminded me of an earlier incidence when we were expecting our first baby in Lagos on the mid seventies; she came with an idea of a Blender/Liquidizer. I asked what a Blender is. She explained that it is used to blend soup ingredients so that soup can be prepared only when needed. I never saw a Blender. My idea of what she called a Blender was this big machine, grinder, placed outside the house by women for commercial purposes, which noise can make people deaf (my American friends will not be able to understand this area as funny as it is).
I got annoyed with the proposal as being too frivolous. When I saw how frustrated she was, I caved in to her suggestion, taunting her, what place she would have for it inside our two small room apartment. Those were days of elegant Nigeria. Soon as she had approval, she dashed to Bhojsons in Oyingbo, Ebute-Metta and brought the toy. What jest of me she made is anyone guest-'Bush man"
When Jesus for the World Revival Mission was born in Lagos and I started to write tracts, in order to reduce cost of printing, Deacons Sola Opaleye and Simeon Adeyemo who are Printers & Bro Emmanuel Olowolabi working as an administrator in a Printing Company, all members of the Mission, made the Press Team of the Mission. The Mission purchased a Letter Press Type Case and my wife became the administrator after tutorial from the gentlemen.
She had come to terms that her single life was not to end with my exit from the Middle East. She had accepted her fate that I was not to join her in the U.S. but I was called for a mission in Nigeria, to return Nigeria to the path of sanity, path of godliness so that Nigerians can enjoy the good of the land. The Bible in Isaiah 1.19 says "If ye be willing and obedient, ye shall eat the good of the land. Nigerians want to eat the good of the land but are not prepared to meet the pre-condition of 'obedience' and the obedience is none other but 'righteousness' The Bible in Proverbs 14:34 says "Righteousness exalts a nation: but sin is a reproach to any people"
It is quite unfortunate that the gains of the revival, we had in the early 70's in Nigeria, of which God made us part of the instruments are being lost to pulpits with fraudulent preaching, who believes that preaching is a means to worldly riches. God has commissioned me to address all the frauds on the pulpits so that Nigerians can eat the good of the land and temptation to sin due to poverty can be minimized.
The Radio Broadcast of the Mission is to her credit. She singlehandedly set up a mobile studio, whereby I can record and transmit. She was the designer of all the Christmas greetings, which Jesus for the World Revival sends at Christmas time.
She was the Mission's Researcher who pulls out from the internet many information I used at one time or the other.
My elder son got no job, years after he graduated and when he saw how I diverted the large part of the family resources for the Mission work, he was dissatisfied with me that rather than empowering him, I was spending my money on a country that is not worth it. She complained to his mother, who answered him that it was my sweat and I was free to spend it the way it pleased me.
Few months to my exit from the Middle East in 2010, I thought I should reward a faithful woman with a brand new car. She bought it but the moment I settled down to the Mission work in Nigeria and she saw what much was spent within a short time including the bills on air time broadcast, she shipped the car to Nigeria that I should sell it in aid of the campaign.
Do we have arguments? Yes and there is nothing abnormal about it. I believe she was too strict with the children while she believed I am too soft. Surprisingly, she is the darling of those children now as adults. I am sure people who saw her at a distance will ask if Victoria who they knew could be strict on any one. In fact, she was strict on me too in our early days.
If you can find a truly good wife, she is worth more than precious gems (jewels)! 11 Her husband can trust her, and she will richly satisfy his needs. 12 She will not hinder him but help him all her life. These good deeds of hers shall bring her honor and recognition from people of importance (Proverbs 31 (LB))
And I heard a voice from heaven saying unto me, Write, Blessed are the dead which die in the Lord from henceforth: Yea, saith the Spirit, that they may rest from their labours; and their works do follow them (Revelation 14:13)
My dear wife, not at any time did it ever cross my mind that you will depart before me. Even when the Doctors became hopeless, we believed that our faith was going to see us through. Blessed be His verdict. The remembrance of you is however sweet. Again, Good night.
Victoria Oluranti Aweda (nee Adebiyi) 02 '55-05 '14 Good night